Comments on: All Grown Up? No Siblings? Welcome.

By: Admin

Admin — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 05:47:31 +0000

Thanks for sharing, Ram. Sounds like you’re really aware of your feelings, but still you feel like you should feel differently. Know what I mean? I can relate to that sometimes – I bet a lot of people can.

By: Ram

Ram — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 14:08:55 +0000

I am an only child, turning 26 at the end of the year. I’m originally from Singapore (of Indian ethnicity) but in Melbourne, Australia for studies. It’s been exactly a week since I arrived here. I realize I’m way too comfortable even in a foreign land. I asked myself why and I’ve come to a reasonable conclusion. I’m emotionally detached. It’s only now that I realize the night I left, my Mom gave me a warm hug and my response was nothing more than casual. Here I am in a totally different country and I’m unimpressed and not even nervous. I miss nothing and no one back home.

Just over 2 hours ago my Mom was on the phone with me. The conversation ended with her crying. She misses me so much (my parents are married but it’s an obvious failure), I’m pretty much all she has. But I was so annoyed the whole time cause she’s talking to me like I’m still her little boy, full of nagging and advising and all that.

My Dad hates his in-laws. Mom’s actually afraid to invite her own family, siblings or friends over in fear that Dad will say something offensive to them. Mom’s a submissive sort, Dad’s the exact opposite. He’ll snap at her for the slightest things. I grew up my whole life hearing things no child should hear. In recent years Dad has tried to forge a relationship with me but I simply cannot bring myself to be close to him. It’s almost a habit for me to get annoyed with him even when he’s being nice.

I hate hearing my Mom cry, which is unfortunately quite often, yet I don’t wanna say anything to her. I’m shooting in all directions with no real point, I’m sorry. I just needed to get things off my chest. It’s one thing being an only child but your upbringing is also very important. I really wish my life was different enough for me to care.

Thanks for reading. Sorry about the mess of thoughts.

By: AOC Admin

AOC Admin — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 01:17:16 +0000

So sorry to hear you were having trouble registering. What exactly was the issue? This is a very new site, and it’s going to take a while to work all the kinks out – thanks for sticking with me! I appreciate any feedback.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Sun, 27 Jun 2010 03:15:51 +0000

As if my life were not depressing and demanding enough, I can’t even register on your stupid website. I’m just going to go back to my only child, no husband, no boyfriend, no children of my own cave. Stupid me, try to reach out for help, understanding, and get slapped in the face… every time. I don’t even know why I bother.

By: Mark

Mark — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 18:52:47 +0000

Hi Deb

Glad to see you are here. I guess you must have gotten registered. We would like to hear your story. I am an only child in my fifties with deceased parents and no children and no cousins I have ever lived within 300 miles of. One of the greatest problems we face is that non-onlies seem to lack sympathy and understanding of what it is like to be an only. Some seem to believe that any only-related problems we might have somehow end when we reach adulthood. Lack of real, old fashioned friendship is my biggest problem. As I have no siblings or cousins that I know very well, I have a desperate need for friendship and have felt that need for decades. I am married so I dont go to the bars (where it is relatively easy to make “friends” if you are single). I dont smoke anymore and I get sickened by second hand smoke, so I dont go to poker games, bowling alleys, etc. My work does not involve other people, so I dont interact with others at work. If I had siblings, I wouldnt feel such a desperate need and would be more lighthearted about the idea of making friends, as I would have the siblings to fall back on if for nothing but an occasional phone conversation. Siblings also can be helpful in making friends with others, either through introductions or some other means. If you go to a game or something with a sibling, you are not there “alone”, and if you reach out to contact a potential friend, he or she sees you in the company of another person (who happens to be your sibling) and accordingly does not perceive you as a wierdo loner. I wish the people in these groups that live in large cities, such as Portland, OR, where I live, could somehow get together because I believe that at least we understand what it is like.

By: Deb

Deb — Mon, 07 Jun 2010 14:37:19 +0000

I have tried to register on this site and it will not allow me. It says the site isn’t found/access denied. Any suggestions?

By: William Joseph Reynolds

William Joseph Reynolds — Sat, 15 May 2010 00:29:26 +0000

I am absolutely thrilled and delighted to see the launch of this new site. It has been something I have been yearning for, for the longest time.
I wish it a world of success.

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By: William Joseph Reynolds

William Joseph Reynolds — Thu, 13 May 2010 12:14:18 +0000

Dear Nosibs,
I lost both my parents while I was in college…my Mother died on Good Friday, was laid out on Easter Sunday, and my father was buried on Christmas Eve. Amazingly, I was able to graduate with high honors…a 3.725 GPA and was inducted into ‘Who’s Who Among Students in American Universities & Colleges.’
As proud as I was of this accomplishment, when I had to submit my biography and refer to myself as the son the ‘late’ William and Violet (Boerner) Reynolds, it was like a knife through my heart.
It’s been 29 and 27 years, respectively. I am 54 now, and have been in ill health for the last 9 years. I know what you’re going through. You have my friendship and sympathy.

By: William Joseph Reynolds

William Joseph Reynolds — Thu, 13 May 2010 11:33:18 +0000

I was in our local card store over this past weekend. Watching from a distance, as an observer, as throngs of people poured over the card racks to get the perfect ‘Mother’s Day’ card. This was the 30th Mother’s Day without my mom. It’s been 27 years since I lost my dad.
I got to thinking about the origin of Mother’s Day…how it was a seed of an idea of just one woman. Look at how it has evolved over the years.
It got me to start thinking about forging a campaign to start a ‘Sibling Day.’ I even imagined getting actors Tony Dow and Jerry Mathers of ‘Leave it to Beaver’ fame to be the national spokesmen for such a campaign.
There is such a bond that siblings share. I long for it each and every day. My parents had wanted more children, in fact, my father wanted nine children, ‘just like Queen Victoria and Prince Albert,’ he said.
But, it never happened.
Meanwhile, all of my younger cousins were being inducted into that special club. Having younger siblings. For a while there, it was happening left and right. 14 youner cousins in the course of 10 years. Out of my whole family, I was the only ‘only child.’
At school, I was surrounded by classmates whose households rivaled that of the Brady Bunch or Ma and Pa Kettle’s.
I have been in ill health now for the past 9 or 10 years. I am 54 years old. Just turned 54, as a matter of fact, last month on Shakespeare’s birthday. I think of how a sibling could help me through this awful ordeal of mine. I am also sueing for medical malpractice.
As adults, Tony Dow and Jerry Mathers have had to deal with their own health issues. Dow with mental health/depression issues, and Mathers, more recently, with Diabetes. The cameras may have stopped rolling for them, almost 50 years ago, but I am sure, they have supported each other, over the years.
I miss that. I miss that desperately.